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By the time boys are 8 or 10, they’re steeped in Marvel action heroes with bulging, oversized muscles and rock-hard abs. By adolescence, they’re deluged with social media streams of bulked-up male bodies.

The underlying messages about power and worth prompt many boys to worry and wonder about how to measure up. Sometimes, negative thoughts and concerns even interfere with daily life, a mental health issue known body dysmorphic disorder, or body dysmorphia. The most common form of this in boys is muscle dysmorphia.

What is muscle dysmorphia?

Muscle dysmorphia is marked by preoccupation with a muscular and lean physique. While the more extreme behaviors that define this disorder appear only in a small percentage of boys and young men, it may color the mindset of many more.

Nearly a quarter of boys and young men engage in some type of muscle-building behaviors. “About 60% of young boys in the United States mention changing their diet to become more muscular,” says Dr. Gabriela Vargas, director of the Young Men’s Health website at Boston Children’s Hospital. “While that may not meet the diagnostic criteria of muscle dysmorphia disorder, it’s impacting a lot of young men.”

“There’s a social norm that equates muscularity with masculinity,” Dr. Vargas adds. “Even Halloween costumes for 4- and 5-year-old boys now have padding for six-pack abs. There’s constant messaging that this is what their bodies should look like.”

Does body dysmorphic disorder differ in boys and girls?

Long believed to be the domain of girls, body dysmorphia can take the form of eating disorders such as anorexia or bulimia. Technically, muscle dysmorphia is not an eating disorder. But it is far more pervasive in males — and insidious.

“The common notion is that body dysmorphia just affects girls and isn’t a male issue,” Dr. Vargas says. “Because of that, these unhealthy behaviors in boys often go overlooked.”

What are the signs of body dysmorphia in boys?

Parents may have a tough time discerning whether their son is merely being a teen or veering into dangerous territory. Dr. Vargas advises parents to look for these red flags:

• Marked change in physical routines, such as going from working out once a day to spending hours working out every day.
• Following regimented workouts or meals, including limiting the foods they’re eating or concentrating heavily on high-protein options.
• Disrupting normal activities, such as spending time with friends, to work out instead.
• Obsessively taking photos of their muscles or abdomen to track “improvement.”
• Weighing himself multiple times a day.
• Dressing to highlight a more muscular physique, or wearing baggier clothes to hide their physique because they don’t think it’s good enough.

“Nearly everyone has been on a diet,” Dr. Vargas says. “The difference with this is persistence — they don’t just try it for a week and then decide it’s not for them. These boys are doing this for weeks to months, and they’re not flexible in changing their behaviors.”

What are the health dangers of muscle dysmorphia in boys?

Extreme behaviors can pose physical and mental health risks.

For example, unregulated protein powders and supplements boys turn to in hopes of quickly bulking up muscles may be adulterated with stimulants or even anabolic steroids. “With that comes an increased risk of stroke, heart palpitations, high blood pressure, and liver injury,” notes Dr. Vargas.

Some boys also attempt to gain muscle through a “bulk and cut” regimen, with periods of rapid weight gain followed by periods of extreme calorie limitation. This can affect long-term muscle and bone development and lead to irregular heartbeat and lower testosterone levels.

“Even in a best-case scenario, eating too much protein can lead to a lot of intestinal distress, such as diarrhea, or to kidney injury, since our kidneys are not meant to filter out excessive amounts of protein,” Dr. Vargas says.

The psychological fallout can also be dramatic. Depression and suicidal thoughts are more common in people who are malnourished, which may occur when boys drastically cut calories or neglect entire food groups. Additionally, as they try to achieve unrealistic ideals, they may constantly feel like they’re not good enough.

How can parents encourage a healthy body image in boys?

These tips can help:

• Gather for family meals. Schedules can be tricky. Yet considerable research shows physical and mental health benefits flow from sitting down together for meals, including a greater likelihood of children being an appropriate weight for their body type.
• Don’t comment on body shape or size. “It’s a lot easier said than done, but this means your own body, your child’s, or others in the community,” says Dr. Vargas.
• Frame nutrition and exercise as meaningful for health. When you talk with your son about what you eat or your exercise routine, don’t tie hoped-for results to body shape or size.
• Communicate openly. “If your son says he wants to exercise more or increase his protein intake, ask why — for his overall health, or a specific body ideal?”
• Don’t buy protein supplements. It’s harder for boys to obtain them when parents won’t allow them in the house. “One alternative is to talk with your son’s primary care doctor or a dietitian, who can be a great resource on how to get protein through regular foods,” Dr. Vargas says.

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Maureen Salamon, Executive Editor, Harvard Women's Health Watch

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Howard E. LeWine, MD, Chief Medical Editor, Harvard Health Publishing

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Want your child to grow up healthy, happy, smart, capable, and resilient? Play with them. Infants and toddlers thrive on playful games that change as they grow.

Why does play matter during the first few years of life?

More than a million new nerve connections are made in the brain in the first few years of life. And pruning of these neural connections makes them more efficient. These processes literally build the brain and help guide how it functions for the rest of that child’s life. While biology — particularly genetics — affects this, so does a child’s environment and experiences.

Babies and children thrive with responsive caregiving. Serve and return, a term used by the Harvard Center on the Developing Child, describes this well: back-and-forth interactions, in which the child and caregiver react to and interact with each other in a loving, nurturing way, are the building blocks of a healthy brain and a happy child, who will have a better chance of growing into a healthy, happy, competent, and successful adult.

Play is one of the best ways to do responsive caregiving. To maximize the benefits of play:

• Bring your full attention. Put the phone down, don’t multitask.
• Be reciprocal. That’s the “serve and return” part. Even little babies can interact with their caregivers, and that’s what you want to encourage. It doesn’t have to be reciprocal in an equal way — you might be talking in sentences while your baby is just smiling or cooing — but the idea is to build responsiveness into the play.
• Be attuned to developmental stages. That way your child can fully engage — and you can encourage their development as well.

Great games to play with infants: 6 to 9 months

The Center for the Developing Child has some great ideas and handouts for parents about specific games to play with their children at different ages.

6-month-olds and 9-month-olds are learning imitation and other building blocks of language. They are also starting to learn movement and explore the world around them.

Here are some play ideas for this age group:

• Play peek-a-boo or patty-cake.
• Play games of hiding toys under a blanket or another toy, and then “find” them, or let the baby find them.
• Have back-and-forth conversations. The baby’s contribution might just be a “ma” or “ba” sound. You can make the same sound back, or pretend that your baby is saying something (“You don’t say! Really? Tell me more!”).
• Play imitation games: if your baby sticks out their tongue, you do it too, for example. Older babies will start to be able to imitate things like clapping or banging, and love when grownups do that with them.
• Sing songs that involve movement, like “Itsy Bitsy Spider” or “Trot, Trot to Boston” with words and motions.
• Play simple games with objects, like putting toys into a bucket and taking them out, or dropping them and saying “boom!”

Great games to play with toddlers

Between 12 months and 18 months, young toddlers are gaining more language and movement skills, and love to imitate. You can:

• Play with blocks, building simple things and knocking them down together.
• Do imaginative play with dolls or stuffed animals, or pretend phone calls.
• Use pillows and blankets to build little forts and places to climb and play.
• Play some rudimentary hide-and-seek, like hiding yourself under a blanket next to the baby.
• Continue singing songs that involve movement and interaction, like “If You’re Happy And You Know It.”
• Go on outings and explore the world together. Even just going to the grocery store can be an adventure for a baby. Narrate everything. Don’t worry about using words your baby doesn’t understand; eventually they will, and hearing lots of different words is good for them.

Older toddlers, who are 2 or 3 years old, are able to do more complicated versions of these games. They can do matching, sorting, and counting games, as well as imitation and movement games like “follow the leader” (you can get quite creative and silly with that one).

As much as you can, give yourself over to play and have fun. Work and chores can wait, or you can actually involve young children in chores, making that more fun for both of you. Checking social media can definitely wait.

Playing with your child is an investment in your child’s future — and a great way to build your relationship and make both of you happy.

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Claire McCarthy, MD, Senior Faculty Editor, Harvard Health Publishing

Claire McCarthy, MD, is a primary care pediatrician at Boston Children’s Hospital, and an assistant professor of pediatrics at Harvard Medical School. In addition to being a senior faculty editor for Harvard Health Publishing, Dr. McCarthy … See Full Bio View all posts by Claire McCarthy, MD